Show me a relationship where the fun is gone and I will show you a relationship that lacks intimacy, honesty, real companionship and a positive outlook for the future. Why is fun so important in relationships? Does a willingness and ability to have fun with your partner mean that you have to both have a lot in common? Or that you both like to play golf or tennis? No to both questions.
The ability to have fun means that you both are willing and want to experience new things together whether it is a new Bed & Breakfast for a Friday night sleep over or attending a concert by a music group that neither of you has ever heard of. It could mean a day of white water rafting when the most you have ever done is lay around in the neighborhood pool for a few hours. It doesn't matter how you choose to define fun. As long as you laugh, enjoy yourself and your partner and create positive memories.
To some degree the ability to have fun together may be related to your willingness to try new things, your flexibility, your adventurous spirit and your spontaneity. Again I ask, why is the ability to have fun with your partner so important.
It can reduce the negative impact of the stressors in your life.
It can create the opportunity for new social experiences.
It can contribute to your ability to talk with each other about things other than family or the weather.
It may help you live longer.
It can give you lots of great memories.
It can expand your circle of friends.
It can help you keep the intimacy alive and well in your relationship.
It can deepen your personality.
It can expand your horizons.
It can improve your knowledge, wisdom or skills.
Need I say more?
What are some different examples of fun you can have to put the spark back in your relationship or prevent them from ever leaving?
Take dancing lessons together.
Start a new hobby together — gardening, bird watching, water skiing, sky diving - whatever)
Start a weekly date night. (Alternate who gets to decide what you do on your date.)
Spend one weekend night per month at a new hotel, resort, B&B or even Motel 6.
Try a new restaurant once a month.
Take a cooking class together.
Visit a winery once a month.
This list could go on forever.
Now it's your turn. See how many fun things you can come up with.
Here are a few guidelines before you begin.
Spend some time together coming up with ideas (a list of possible things) that one or both of you might like to do or try.
Create a Fun Budget for this part of your life.
Alternate who gets to decide on what this week's (month's) fun event/activity will be.
Alternate who makes the plans for a particular event/activity.
Now it's your turn. See if I have missed any other ideas to ensure that your relationship is more fun from now on.
The ability to have fun means that you both are willing and want to experience new things together whether it is a new Bed & Breakfast for a Friday night sleep over or attending a concert by a music group that neither of you has ever heard of. It could mean a day of white water rafting when the most you have ever done is lay around in the neighborhood pool for a few hours. It doesn't matter how you choose to define fun. As long as you laugh, enjoy yourself and your partner and create positive memories.
To some degree the ability to have fun together may be related to your willingness to try new things, your flexibility, your adventurous spirit and your spontaneity. Again I ask, why is the ability to have fun with your partner so important.
It can reduce the negative impact of the stressors in your life.
It can create the opportunity for new social experiences.
It can contribute to your ability to talk with each other about things other than family or the weather.
It may help you live longer.
It can give you lots of great memories.
It can expand your circle of friends.
It can help you keep the intimacy alive and well in your relationship.
It can deepen your personality.
It can expand your horizons.
It can improve your knowledge, wisdom or skills.
Need I say more?
What are some different examples of fun you can have to put the spark back in your relationship or prevent them from ever leaving?
Take dancing lessons together.
Start a new hobby together — gardening, bird watching, water skiing, sky diving - whatever)
Start a weekly date night. (Alternate who gets to decide what you do on your date.)
Spend one weekend night per month at a new hotel, resort, B&B or even Motel 6.
Try a new restaurant once a month.
Take a cooking class together.
Visit a winery once a month.
This list could go on forever.
Now it's your turn. See how many fun things you can come up with.
Here are a few guidelines before you begin.
Spend some time together coming up with ideas (a list of possible things) that one or both of you might like to do or try.
Create a Fun Budget for this part of your life.
Alternate who gets to decide on what this week's (month's) fun event/activity will be.
Alternate who makes the plans for a particular event/activity.
Now it's your turn. See if I have missed any other ideas to ensure that your relationship is more fun from now on.
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